tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post452398829906202864..comments2024-01-28T07:45:17.875-08:00Comments on Tales from the Motherhood: Potty Training StinksTDM Wendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14490428486183766703noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-46566922785732480002011-04-22T03:27:04.846-07:002011-04-22T03:27:04.846-07:00I know this was a year ago for you, but it's r...I know this was a year ago for you, but it's right now for me and I'm going nuts....I asked him the other day if he needed a spanking. YES. a spanking.<br /><br />I'm so over this. WHY WHY WHY wont he pee on teh potty????Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14646178772882717555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-8821280947206322072011-04-20T22:21:41.896-07:002011-04-20T22:21:41.896-07:00Wow, I am going thru some of your posts, and this ...Wow, I am going thru some of your posts, and this is where I am with my 3 year and 5 months old strong willed daughter (only child). My mother said I was potty trained late so maybe this is payback. She asked the pediatrician, who told her, "Don't worry, you don't see kindergarteners in diapers." I may buy stock in pull ups. The things make her itchy and bumpy, but what else can I do? I keep saying, "I'll do potty boot camp after the next vacation..." and have been training her, for, oh about a year now!<br />Also, thanks for speaking to our MOPs group, I bought your book! (Fremont).Mommy Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15739705143251032631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-82186430316633903102010-03-06T22:36:49.306-08:002010-03-06T22:36:49.306-08:00Hi there, total random stranger here who stopped b...Hi there, total random stranger here who stopped by from the Murphy's blog. I've popped over before (you're super entertaining :) ), but I couldn't resist commenting on this post. Oh how I feel your pain!!! My girl is 3 1/2 and this is our 3rd attempt at potty training. In previous attempts she held her pee for nearly 30 hrs. and she currently hasn't pooped in a week (don't worry I stay in touch with the Dr. ;) ) My girl is also strong willed and she does things on her own terms. Really, I just think there is nothing you can do except PRAY A LOT! :) She'll get it...eventually! :)Barbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17510893859802951483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-46427270865682530172010-01-24T04:20:50.371-08:002010-01-24T04:20:50.371-08:00so sorry you are going through this. I use a grea...so sorry you are going through this. I use a great potty training method (it is a one day intensive training day), but it really is aimed at 20m-2 1/2y. I do not think it would be effective with her... it needs to be used with first time training. <br /><br />I am working with my son (almost 3) on night training. My Daughter got it SO quickly.Carrie https://www.blogger.com/profile/09122331410023898418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-82310606436752043252010-01-16T21:12:39.447-08:002010-01-16T21:12:39.447-08:00Becky, I have tried different methods for months a...Becky, I have tried different methods for months at a time, like timeouts. She just doesn't seem to give a rip - whether it's rewards or consequences. I think if I duct taped her to chair and put her princess dresses through a shredder before her very eyes she would shrug her shoulders and say, "I didn't really like those anyway." Pulled her out of preschool last week. She lived it up in her pull up the first two days. Then two dry days (with me encouraging some bathroom usage). Today- not good. Pee and poo in the pull up. She says she wants to go back to preschool ...TDM Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490428486183766703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-27050189809511072992010-01-16T19:46:24.524-08:002010-01-16T19:46:24.524-08:00Don't worry girl. We'll always make Lydia ...Don't worry girl. We'll always make Lydia look good in the potty-training department, at least until she's 7.5 yrs old. Not encouraging huh?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-39617949186335800632010-01-16T17:44:54.375-08:002010-01-16T17:44:54.375-08:00As the strong willed child, I would weigh the cons...As the strong willed child, I would weigh the consequences and when I finally figured out that I would ALWAYS get caught and it was NEVER worth it, I gave up and followed the rules. By the age of four I turned into a pretty obedient kid.<br />So my advice would be to stay consistent with the consequences. Is going to her room the time out? Maybe time out could be sitting there with her hands folded the whole time staring at the wall. And try not to be emotional or upset, just dish out the consequence. Then it's not about you, just about her.<br />p.s.- I'm totally delaying the potty training for V because I dread it.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11858467435627747268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-39786266842795189942010-01-11T19:54:36.811-08:002010-01-11T19:54:36.811-08:00Melissa, I have done the "matter of fact"...Melissa, I have done the "matter of fact" for months now. Not working.It's like alcoholism. She has to be the one to decide (again) to stop... peeing her pants. I just spoke to her preschool teacher to give her a heads up that I will be bringing Lydia by to class tomorrow to say goodbye. Hopefully, it will be a wake up call to her. She just needs to stay dry for 7 days and then she's back to undies and preschool... UGH!TDM Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490428486183766703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-81141175501273178122010-01-11T15:22:27.933-08:002010-01-11T15:22:27.933-08:00Oh honey, I so feel for you. It IS a shame you don...Oh honey, I so feel for you. It IS a shame you don't drink wine, because that was going to be my first suggestion ;)<br />We did the 3 day - naked bottoms with a long t-shirt - don't leave the house - weekend. She peed on the floor a bunch (thank goodness for hard wood floors) and on a couple of chairs. But she eventually got it. I'm not sure how to deal with the strong willed. Olivia (3) also does the 'I don't care' routine when I execute any consequences. Do you have any advice for ME on being nicer to her 17 month little sister?? I, too, am at my wit's end...and the wine only helps a wee bit ;)CAP17https://www.blogger.com/profile/07028843026040711771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-81961154935626944992010-01-11T08:13:43.933-08:002010-01-11T08:13:43.933-08:00Oh, Wendy, Wendy.... so sorry. Not fun, and I feel...Oh, Wendy, Wendy.... so sorry. Not fun, and I feel your pain as none of my kiddos have been easy potty trainers. I still have 4am bed sheet changes... my favorite. Waiting with my 3rd. He shows absoluetly NO interest, so I'm putting it off. <br /><br />Here's my encouragement: I know it's frustrating, but she WILL do it. She won't be 12 years old and still wearing a diaper. Maybe 11, but not 12. The social stigma would be too much to handle. :)Hang in there. You're in good company :)Terpstra Easthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15334477684968186924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-88961686962881092522010-01-11T06:01:29.989-08:002010-01-11T06:01:29.989-08:00Oh girl, I feel your pain. I have a little boy th...Oh girl, I feel your pain. I have a little boy that is 3 years and 5 months.....still not potty trained. I have tried everything as well, even using REALLY small diapers on him.....you know make him uncomfortable and know that he is too big for diapers too big to go pee and poo in his pants. Sounds stupid but I am desperate. Just so you know.....it doesn't work. He totally does not care. One day he came into the room and I noticed something weird around his leg. "What is in your pant leg Graham?" Yeah, it was his size 2 diaper....around his ankle. Potty training sucks. My other too were super easy...this one...not so much. Let me know if you find something that works for your little one.<br />Blessings,<br />MelissaInvited Inhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14555293237451063783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-8329112344258244562010-01-11T05:08:59.335-08:002010-01-11T05:08:59.335-08:00Okay my vote after having a strong willed child is...Okay my vote after having a strong willed child is "make it less of a big deal". Strong willed kids thrive on the fight. The more "matter of fact" you can be, the less she can be reactive. You can't fight over something if the person you are talking to won't fight with you....Take a step back and only do the potty training when you are ready to be calm and matter of fact. Once you get that down, you do it more and more. It won't be an overnight fix, but it will work. I also used to give one skittle for each "good deed." I would have gladly paid for someone to potty train my kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-84127825960495428922010-01-10T23:01:04.421-08:002010-01-10T23:01:04.421-08:00I feel your pain Wendy! I had to train Kylia so sh...I feel your pain Wendy! I had to train Kylia so she could go to preschool as well, and I felt like she was still having accidents forever! She has a very laid back attitude and didn't see the big deal about accidents, etc. and it drove me crazy. I already told Wes he is in charge of Solomon's training. The thing that did help me a lot is 3daypottytraining.com. Some people think it is too militant but for the drama queens, stubborn, or laid back ones it can help. You have to actually follow it to the letter but it worked for us- although the accidents continued but not at school too much. Good luck! It was my least favorite part of the kid thing.Stoutshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07925833949781237746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-38302733925816653142010-01-10T22:16:58.039-08:002010-01-10T22:16:58.039-08:00Jenn, Been there done that. And time outs (so she ...Jenn, Been there done that. And time outs (so she sees that it is worse not to take a quick break to potty). In fact yesterday, I gave her a 15 minute time out for her first incident (I had warned her that was the consequence). And warned her that it would be 30 minutes the next time. Not an hour later I was playing Zingo with her and she peed her pants. No more Zingo. 30 minutes in her room. She didn't care.TDM Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490428486183766703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-84775402503586418802010-01-10T22:09:19.205-08:002010-01-10T22:09:19.205-08:00Wendy, this makes my heart so sad for you! How fr...Wendy, this makes my heart so sad for you! How frustrating!<br />I don't have any personal advice for you , but a friend of mine shared this little tidbit with me a few years back (may not be applicable until she's back in underwear): her son had the lazy accidents too-- too busy to stop playing and go potty-- so every time he had an accident, she would make him practice stopping what he was doing and run to the bathroom. The whole routine-- dropping whatever toy, running to bathroom, taking off pants, sitting on the pot, etc.-- TEN TIMES. He got REALLY tired of practicing and eventually stopped having accidents. <br />Worth a shot, I guess.<br />I'll be praying for you!Bill and Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14910061658479603176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-9302298637919692422010-01-10T21:14:56.653-08:002010-01-10T21:14:56.653-08:00Oh Wendy! She is so strong willed.I really think i...Oh Wendy! She is so strong willed.I really think it is a battle of wills. She will come around though. My nephew did. My brother had his son use the restroom every morning and night, regardless. When going out, he had to go try. That is all you can do. And yes, hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-72791285065784737932010-01-10T21:13:52.729-08:002010-01-10T21:13:52.729-08:00oh Wendy....I don't even know what to say! Lyd...oh Wendy....I don't even know what to say! Lydia sure is cute, but man, she is STUBBORN! I have no ideas for you right now...I think you are doing everything right & I like the approach you are trying now. Good luck & I will be praying for you!! Especially for patience!!! <br />p.s. love the chapter, can't wait for the book!mel @ the larson lingohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06609533871423094530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-19344303315534650032010-01-10T21:12:24.191-08:002010-01-10T21:12:24.191-08:00MarcusGun,
Classic! But does wine potty train for ...MarcusGun,<br />Classic! But does wine potty train for you or clean up poop or make the problem go away... permanently!TDM Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490428486183766703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35068604.post-49805367300875093682010-01-10T21:08:58.065-08:002010-01-10T21:08:58.065-08:00When I read blogs like this, I think, "It'...When I read blogs like this, I think, "It's a shame she doesn't drink wine." :) Hang in there, my friend!MarcusGunnoreply@blogger.com