When I first started blogging I thought when someone became your "follower" she actually got something out of it. Perhaps an email that said, "Hey you are now following so and so. Their blog posts are kind of boring, but since you know them you might like their pictures." or "Nice choice here. This person says some interesting stuff and they clearly have a professional camera." or "Welcome to this blog which will make you aware of how uncrafty you are. Although you will never attempt any of these crafts with your children, it's nice to see what those kind of people do." or "Thanks for following me. I barely even blog anymore because I am just too popular. I just give a bunch of stuff away that all these companies throw at me. And by the way, I really love Dove Soap and did you know McDonald's has a lot of healthy choices?"
Recently I signed up as a follower on a few blogs and can verify that you get nothing from it. Well, you get a little headshot on the sidebar (living the dream), but there no compensation or communication.
I have come to accept that being a follower of a blog is like being their bridesmaid. You are standing along side that blogger saying, "Hey I support you and your relationship with your blog. If you start neglecting your blog or being a jerk to your blog, I will call you out. In good times and bad."
If you unfollow the blog you are saying, "I know I was your bridesmaid, but I don't really like your blog anymore." or "Life happens. I just don't have time for you anymore."
Having blog bridesmaids is like a popularity contest. You campaign to get more bridesmaids. You feel better about yourself when you get new bridesmaids. You wonder how in the world certain blogs have so many bridesmaids and you wonder if their bridesmaids did in fact get some serious financial compensation because . . . well . . . the blog is totally uninteresting.
(This is my friend Keri. I was her bridesmaid. I was lucky she allowed a shorty like me to be in her wedding. She was my bridesmaid too, but she is not an official blog bridesmaid (no headshot on the sidebar). I know in her heart she is one. Keri, you need to go public with your bridesmaideship. I think Keri set up a blog and then never made a post. At this point, I cannot be her blog bridesmaid. We have a complicated relationship. Or at least I just made it complicated.)
It is this type of thought process (thinking all metaphorically and about popularity and desiring to have more followers or wondering why you don't have more followers) that makes me think I should just delete my bridesmaid followers altogether. But then I feel bad because my bridesmaid followers had to buy stupid dresses they will never wear again and they had to get up early and shower and stuff.
Anyone have any thoughts on this? Because getting comments is like how many people come to your wedding.
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Anyone have any thoughts on this? Because getting comments is like how many people come to your wedding.
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